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The Upside of Funerals
23 Jan

The Upside of Funerals

By Donna RandallUncategorized

Not long before Christmas, one of the remaining two sisters-in-law of Annie left this world. This woman was 92 when she died, and had been experiencing an increasing number of health issues which were upon her. And so, while her immediate family, in particular, were sad about their loss, the funeral was a celebration of

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Lady In Waiting
09 Jan

Our Lady In Waiting

By Donna RandallUncategorized

Over all the years I’ve known Annie Oakley, and particularly during the two years or so that we have served as her caregivers, I have become amazed at the percentage of her time that she spends in waiting! Any of you involved with seniors will know that they like to be early for everything. I’ve

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donna and her mom
02 Jan

How Do we Know How to Care?

By Donna RandallUncategorized

A close girlfriend and I managed to carve out a couple of hours over these holidays to catch up while walking and over lattes. We both are old orphans (meaning both our parents have died), and we got to talking about my creation called The Essential Family Caregiving Agreement She made reference to a conversation

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One of those special times
19 Dec

One of those Special Times

By Donna RandallUncategorized

Not long ago, Annie Oakley attended the funeral of one of her sisters-in-law, who had reached the ripe old age of 91. With Annie’s family of origin having been a rather large one, the gathering was akin to a family reunion of major proportions. As often is the case, following this funeral service was a

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Difficulty with Changes
05 Dec

Letting Go In Stages

By Donna RandallUncategorized

Partially because of space constraints, and because the recent memories were not particularly pleasant, neither my brother nor I wanted to keep all sorts of Mom’s “stuff”. Katie had acquired some very nice old furniture along the way, which was distributed before they moved west, and Dave and I had long ago decided upon who

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Caregiving
28 Nov

Tag Team Care for Katie

By Donna RandallUncategorized

As is the case with my husband and I with Annie, my brother and I used a tag team approach to caring for Katie, but with a couple of key differences, which change the dynamic. With Annie, both her son and I live in the upstairs part of the house in which Annie lives in

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Frustrated woman
26 Nov

The Gamut of Emotions

By Donna RandallUncategorized

I suppose taking care of elderly family members brings with it emotions not unlike taking care of young family members, including one’s own children. But, a clear difference in these two types of caregiving is that when dealing with children we are likely to explain unwanted behaviour as happening because the child doesn’t know better,

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Adapting to the colder weather
21 Nov

Adapting to the Colder Weather

By Donna RandallUncategorized

It seems to me that I often make mention of our care recipient as such, given our respect for her privacy. However, this is an awkward way to identify her through the course of a blog post, so let’s start referring to her as “Annie”. And, why Annie, you might ask (in fact, I think

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