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12 Mar

Signs of Change

By Donna RandallUncategorized

It seems to me that each and every one of us has made the statement that it is difficult to see changes in someone who you see on a regular basis, but when you haven’t seem someone for a long time you can recognize change instantly. Often these statements refer to little ones, who change

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26 Feb

Expectations and Exasperation

By Donna RandallUncategorized

At the beginning of my time as a caregiver, I was easily flummoxed by my care recipients. I couldn’t quite figure out the inconsistencies they exhibited, and which one of us was the one losing it, on any given day. In the case of Katie, my own mother, as her dementia increased the rules of

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End of Life Care Giving Permission to Let Go
15 Feb

How soon is now?

By Donna RandallUncategorized

The more I talk with others about caregiving for someone close to you (family member or not), the more I can be certain that I will remain uncertain about knowing when the time has come to place the care recipient into care. The answer to that question varies depending upon the people involved and the

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The Upside of Funerals
23 Jan

The Upside of Funerals

By Donna RandallUncategorized

Not long before Christmas, one of the remaining two sisters-in-law of Annie left this world. This woman was 92 when she died, and had been experiencing an increasing number of health issues which were upon her. And so, while her immediate family, in particular, were sad about their loss, the funeral was a celebration of

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Lady In Waiting
09 Jan

Our Lady In Waiting

By Donna RandallUncategorized

Over all the years I’ve known Annie Oakley, and particularly during the two years or so that we have served as her caregivers, I have become amazed at the percentage of her time that she spends in waiting! Any of you involved with seniors will know that they like to be early for everything. I’ve

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donna and her mom
02 Jan

How Do we Know How to Care?

By Donna RandallUncategorized

A close girlfriend and I managed to carve out a couple of hours over these holidays to catch up while walking and over lattes. We both are old orphans (meaning both our parents have died), and we got to talking about my creation called The Essential Family Caregiving Agreement She made reference to a conversation

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One of those special times
19 Dec

One of those Special Times

By Donna RandallUncategorized

Not long ago, Annie Oakley attended the funeral of one of her sisters-in-law, who had reached the ripe old age of 91. With Annie’s family of origin having been a rather large one, the gathering was akin to a family reunion of major proportions. As often is the case, following this funeral service was a

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Difficulty with Changes
05 Dec

Letting Go In Stages

By Donna RandallUncategorized

Partially because of space constraints, and because the recent memories were not particularly pleasant, neither my brother nor I wanted to keep all sorts of Mom’s “stuff”. Katie had acquired some very nice old furniture along the way, which was distributed before they moved west, and Dave and I had long ago decided upon who

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